GANG Carlos Drummond de Andrade "John who loved Teresa, who loved Raymond, who loved Mary, who loved Joachim, who loved lili who didn't love anyone. John went to the United States, Teresa to the convent, Raymond died of disaster, Maria stayed for aunt, Joaquim committed suicide and Lili married J. Pinto Fernandes that had not entered history."
The therapist's family history and affective relationships (dating, marriage, romantic affairs) are integral parts of the therapy, as they interfere in the therapeutic relationship, as well as the fact of having white hair or being a young woman.
Estas características da vida do terapeuta não são argumentos na terapia, mas nossa experiência como terapeutas familiares sistêmicos e observadores do não verbal nos leva a considerar como também muito importantes, os aspectos das relações que ficam não expressas verbalmente.
Starting from these reflections, we have experimented in the training of therapists, a new way of describing the relationships of couples, devising the DUOGRAM.
Temos criado um neologismo para descrever o trabalho que , analogamente ao genograma, focaliza a atenção nas relações afetivas e coloca em segundo plano a ideia que são os laços de sangue em serem os únicos importantes na história do terapeuta.
Com o termo Duograma, indicamos a narração e a representação gráfica das histórias afetivas de uma pessoa e nos referimos ao termo genograma que as descreve, ao invés das relações parentais.
The Duogram comprises the significant sentimental relationships for the subject throughout the arc of his life. The ones from when you were a child and which you remember, the ones you lived in adolescence until adult life. It comprises the desired, fantasized and never realized stories, either because it was unrequited or because it remained a secret.
Childhood falling in love and imagined love stories can mark a person's life less dramatically than a divorce or betrayal, however, in a good systemic and relational reading, all vicissitudes have the same weight and interest as relationship experiences whether fantasized or experienced.
The memory of a rejection (an “out”) received when young carries with it a series of emotions, meanings and experiences that contributed over time to the definition of ideas and prejudices about love and affective relationships.
The Duogram does not draw the cognitive map, but is the subjective representation of affective relationships, just as the genogram does not refer to blood relationships, but to the bonds of love for people of the same or another sex.
In the Duogram, a single generation of the narrator is taken into account and follows the evolutionary development of his life story; past-present temporality is not important in narration and representation. This temporal succession of ties is of interest in relation to the development of the person's life cycle (Walsh, 1993).
As a result, the graphic representation is very different from that of the family tree, commonly used for the genogram, which symbolizes the link between past relationships and the multiplicity of the present.
In the Duogram each relationship can be graphically disconnected from the others, during the narration the person can freely follow the flow of memory without having to stick to the chronology of events, he can count his relationships in the order he prefers, choosing also without reporting them all or leave out one or more. The choice to consciously omit some stories is legitimate and must be respected, so you can forget a relative...
STUDENTS HAVE A HISTORY AND A FAMILY
Students at our school are invited to reflect on their own family of origin, on previous generations in order to deconstruct any stereotyped and totalizing description of family ideas.
To help future therapists be aware of how family history can influence thinking about a special life situation, students are encouraged to look back on the same family experience, using a method that is similar to the one they might use. in therapy with their clients.
During participation in simulations and group work, references and connections with the student's family history are favored, but the presentation of the genogram is the moment in which, more explicitly, reference is made to the family history that each one brings. This work enriches the future therapist with new perspectives with which they see the families they meet in therapy and sometimes leads them to discover and experience themselves within their family contexts.
In relation to this Bowen (1972) maintains that the level of differentiation between the clinician and his family of origin has a lot of influence on the family's response to therapy, that is, on the possibility of therapy being effective.
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There are theoretical and methodological analogies between the genogram and the duogram:
both modalities of work are not just a school to learn how to work with families and couples, but are instruments that help to emphasize the student's prejudices in the description of their affective and family relationships.
Working with the genogram and duogram we explore the relationships and connect these observations with student attitudes.
Partes do texto sobre Duograma idealizado e escrito por Teresa Arcelloni e Gloria Ferrero - formadoras da Episteme Scuola di Psicoterapia Sistemica e Centro Milanese di Terapia della Famiglia (Itália). Tradução: Jaqueline Cássia de Oliveira
