RELATIONSHIP PREMISES
- The encounter between feeling and relationship: feeling is different from relationship. One can feel strong affection for a person and have great difficulty relating to them.
- Love in a positive sense.
- Partners integrate pleasure and value.
- It is a learning process of cohabitation.
- Relationships are a choice and a decision. Not a decree!
- What prevails is the system of exchanges and negotiations (as opposed to disputes).
- In a living relationship, there is renewal, recycling, updating and elimination of excesses.
- It is a relationship between partners who cooperate with each other and with life, with common motivations and interests.
- It is an association based on sharing and collaboration, which requires competence. There may be moments of competition, but this is not the dominant tone of the relationship.
- Being in partnership means being responsible for the division and distribution of profits and losses, agreements and disagreements between us.
- In a living relationship, what I feel is my responsibility, including what I feel for you. And the way you treat me is also my responsibility.
CONTENTS
"Saber da trivialidade da dor e da importância do bem-estar."
- Living with the unexpected: the new every day.
- Staying alive means staying interesting and interested. With interest and enjoyment in our daily lives. It means vibrating, pulsating. ‘The loss of enthusiasm is premature death’.
- Living together in a functional way: with conventions, traditions, habits and routines. The planned and the surprises. The expected and the unexpected. The known and the unknown. The known and the unknown.
- Walking: opening paths, trails through blocks, limitations and prohibitions. Obstacles are difficulties and hiccups to be made operational and functional.
- The movement of living beings is a cyclical process.
TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
- Negative love.
- The tone of the relationship is competition, the dispute over power and reason.
- The relationship functions vertically, where one person is in a superior position and the other must remain in an inferior position.
- Sensitivity diminishes and thoughts of power and control take over.
- Sensitivity is feeling the subjective and perceiving the objective.
Relationship between combatants:
the partners are intimate adversaries. One says they like something, the other immediately responds that they do not like it just to provoke, to fight, to be right.
Declared competitors:
they are together to compete. For example, a very rich man with a very beautiful woman. He will complain that she spends too much of his money and she will complain that he pays her too little for her beauty.
Texto elaborado por: Jaqueline Cássia de Oliveira Fontes: Curso Zélia Nascimento - BH/MG Material didático CASAIS & FAMÍLIAS