Humanisation and dysfunctions
THE PROCESS OF HUMANISATION Breaking down vanity and the myth of perfection. Ability to manage similarities and differences between people. Discrimination of the individual in order to relate emotionally to people and maintain control over things. Discrimination between: value = people and importance = things Harmonious use of thought, action and heart. “O amor não […]
Emotional relationship contract
Quando duas pessoas iniciam um relacionamento, está implícito um contrato, com cláusulas invisíveis, com acordos subentendidos e assinado por ambos, sem terem lido as letrinhas miúdas… The exercise below serves as a tool for psychotherapists to formulate hypotheses about the type of contract entered into by the couple in therapy. It can be carried out […]
Present parents and absent parents
In a family with fearful parents, children feel unable to act and be themselves at home. One or both parents become emotionally absent (parental absence), inefficient and unable to fulfil their parental role, which, in addition to providing for their children, also includes educating, guiding them and setting limits and boundaries for them. Parents often […]
Emotional dissociation – the cry of the mute
THE BEGINNING We arrive in this life ‘without a roof over our heads, without anything in our pockets or in our hands’. We do not yet have immune defences for our bodies or emotional defences for our developing ‘ego/self’. We are very fragile! We need a lot of protection (vaccines, warm clothes, breast milk) and […]
The real and life
Why do we find it so difficult to tolerate REALITY? Because REALITY has two sides, and since we are ‘disconnected’ from seeing both, we are left with only one side: ILLUSION. ILLUSION is seeing only one side and saying that it is EVERYTHING. But life goes hand in hand with Reality: it is beautiful and […]