Figlio sostitutivo
Vincent Van Gogh nacque il 30 marzo 1852, esattamente un anno dopo la morte del fratello Vincent nella culla. Una storia tragica, come se gli fosse stato negato il diritto di esistere. Suo fratello Theo si sposò e ebbe un figlio, che chiamò anch’egli Vincent. Scrisse a Van Gogh: “Desidero che questo Vincent Van Gogh […]
Crypts and transgenerational ghosts
Quem sobre a terra não faz valer a sua parte Divina, não há nem sequer no inferno, repouso. F. Holderlin, Invocação a Parche Nicolas Abraham (1919–1975) was born in Hungary and lived in France in 1938. Maria Török (1925–1998) was a French psychoanalyst of Hungarian origin. They were two classical Freudian psychoanalysts who noticed that […]
The ghosts and legend of Azzurrina – in Italian
Do you know how a legend is born? From a true story. The dynamics are similar to those of the well-known children’s game ‘telephone’. And the same thing happens with family stories. Someone recounts an event that happened in their life or in the life of a family member, emphasising one part and hiding another. […]
The ghosts and the legend of Azzurrina
Do you know how a legend is born? From a true story. The dynamics are similar to those of the well-known children’s game “telephone.” And the same thing happens with family stories. Someone recounts an event that happened in their life or in the life of a family member, emphasising one part and hiding another. […]
Family secrets
In Psychogenealogy, working with the genossociogram – a family tree annotated with dates and stories from at least three generations – allows us to write and narrate the family history, see the inconsistencies that may hide a secret, and recurring dates or names that show repetitions in family history, often indicating the presence of unresolved […]
The ‘unspoken’ and the ‘spoken’
When we look up the etymology of words, we piece together understandings and embroider hypotheses. The word CALAR (to be silent) possibly comes from the Latin callare, which means to lower one’s voice. In Portuguese, it means not to speak or to stop speaking. And the word FALAR (to speak) comes from the Latin fabulare, […]
Shame: Reservoir of Family Secrets – Marilyn J. Mason
We live with the perceived image of a perfect social self (me), which must be admired for complying with external social criteria. We are often admired not for who we are, but for our status, titles and ‘image’ of success. Our capitalist culture ensures that consumption conveys an external image of success. So, if we […]
Prayer of gratitude to ancestors
By Bert Hellinger “Thank you, dear parents, grandparents and other ancestors, for weaving my path. I am immensely grateful for the immensity of your dreams, which, in some way, are now my reality. From this point and with much love, I shed light on the sadness that has been in past generations, I shed light […]
Family is a difficult dish to prepare.
Family is a difficult dish to prepare. There are many ingredients. Bringing them all together is a problem… Especially at Christmas! No matter how good the pot is, creating a family requires courage, dedication and patience. It’s not for everyone. Sometimes you feel like giving up… We prefer the discomfort of an empty stomach. But […]
Family allowances
Talvez possamos nos inspirar nas palavras do poeta Carlos Drummond de Andrade para tentar compreender algumas das questões familiares. Poema que revela os conflitos que atravessamos no processo de aceitação familiar e individuação. Fim da casa paterna “Vou dobrar-me à regra nova de viver ser outro que não eu, até agora musicalmente agasalhado na voz […]