LIVING RELATIONSHIP
PREMISES
- The meeting of feeling with relationship: feeling is different from relationship. You can like a person a lot and have a hard time getting along with them.
- Love in the positive.
- Partners integrate liking and valuing.
- It is learning to live together.
- Relationship is by choice and decision. Not by decree!
- What predominates is the system of exchanges, of negotiations (as opposed to disputes).
- In the living relationship there is renewal, recycling, updating and cutting excesses.
- It is a relationship between partners who cooperate with each other and with life, with common motivation and interests.
- It is an association based on co-participation and collaboration, which requires competence. There may be moments of competition, but it is not the keynote of the relationship.
- To form a partnership is to answer for the division and distribution among themselves of profits and losses, of matches and disagreements.
- In a living relationship, what I feel is my responsibility, including what I feel for you. And also how you treat me is my responsibility.
CONTENTS
"Knowing the triviality of pain and the importance of well-being."
- Living with the unexpected: the new every day.
- Staying alive is keeping yourself interesting and interested. With interest and taste for our daily life. It's vibrating, pulsating. “A loss of enthusiasm is an early death.”
- Functional coexistence: with conventions, traditions, habits and routines. The planned and the surprises. The predicted and the unforeseen. The known and the unknown. The known and the unknown.
- Walking: opening paths, trails through blocks, limitations and prohibitions. Obstacles are difficulties and accidents along the way to be operationalized and functionalized
- Movement of the living – it is a cyclical process.
TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
- Love in the negative.
- The tonic of the relationship is competition, power dispute and reason.
- The relationship works in the verticality where one is placed in the superior position and the other must be in the inferior position.
- Lower the sensitivity and enter the thought of power in command.
- Sensitivity is feeling the subjective and perceiving the objective.]
Relationship between combatants – Partners are intimate adversaries. One says he likes something, the other immediately says he doesn't like it just to tease, to fight, to be right.
declared competitors – are together to compete. For example, a very rich man with a very beautiful woman. He will complain that she spends too much of his money and she will complain that he pays too little for her beauty.
Text prepared by: Jaqueline Cássia de Oliveira Sources: Zélia Nascimento Course - BH/MG Teaching material COUPLES & FAMILIES
