Psychosexual development
Na Psicoterapia Sistêmica as fases do desenvolvimento Psicossexual são distribuídas de forma diferente da Psicanálise. In Freud’s school, it is as follows: oral phase/anal phase/phallic phase/latency period and genital phase. Systemic psychotherapy is based on Freud’s theory with some modifications: oral phase/anal phase/phallic phase and restart in pre-adolescence of the oral phase/anal phase/phallic phase and […]
The silent couple
Once upon a time, there was a newlywed couple. Still dressed in their wedding attire, they settled into their new home as soon as the last guest had left. “Darling,” said the young lady, “Go and lock the door leading to the street!” “Lock the door? Me?” said the groom. “A groom in his splendid […]
Types of relationships
RELATIONSHIP PREMISES The encounter between feeling and relationship: feeling is different from relationship. One can feel strong affection for a person and have great difficulty relating to them. Love in a positive sense. Partners integrate pleasure and value. It is a learning process of cohabitation. Relationships are a choice and a decision. Not a decree! […]
Types of likes
POSITIVE LOVE This type of love occurs when mutual affinity and acceptance prevail. According to the dictionary, affinity means: kinship between one spouse and the relatives of the other; conformity; relationship. In chemistry, it means: the tendency of bodies to unite. Playing with this word, affinity is: I am willing to accept you in what […]
Humanisation and dysfunctions
THE PROCESS OF HUMANISATION Breaking down vanity and the myth of perfection. Ability to manage similarities and differences between people. Discrimination of the individual in order to relate emotionally to people and maintain control over things. Discrimination between: value = people and importance = things Harmonious use of thought, action and heart. “O amor não […]
Emotional relationship contract
Quando duas pessoas iniciam um relacionamento, está implícito um contrato, com cláusulas invisíveis, com acordos subentendidos e assinado por ambos, sem terem lido as letrinhas miúdas… The exercise below serves as a tool for psychotherapists to formulate hypotheses about the type of contract entered into by the couple in therapy. It can be carried out […]
Present parents and absent parents
In a family with fearful parents, children feel unable to act and be themselves at home. One or both parents become emotionally absent (parental absence), inefficient and unable to fulfil their parental role, which, in addition to providing for their children, also includes educating, guiding them and setting limits and boundaries for them. Parents often […]
Emotional dissociation – the cry of the mute
THE BEGINNING We arrive in this life ‘without a roof over our heads, without anything in our pockets or in our hands’. We do not yet have immune defences for our bodies or emotional defences for our developing ‘ego/self’. We are very fragile! We need a lot of protection (vaccines, warm clothes, breast milk) and […]
Life is a journey!
When we think of the word TRAVEL, our first thought may be of the many journeys we have made in our lives, spending hours or days on the road, or the great distances we have travelled by aeroplane, or the foreign and distant lands we have visited, explored or lived in for some time. Etymologically, […]
Spirit of sacrifice
O que é espírito de sacrifício? The word spirit derives from the Greek sopro. Sopro is that which gives life (sopro vitale, breath). The word sacrifice derives from the Latin sacrificium, composed of sacer and ficium, which means ‘act of doing, manifesting the sacred’, or ‘act of passing from the profane sphere to the sacred […]