"Why frown? Nobody pays half in life." leminsky
ADULT IS DIFFERENT FROM "ADULTERED"
- There is the adult adult and the disguised adult: “adulterated”.
- An adult is that person who is identified with “paying in full” in life.
- Adults do not complain because they have the competence and patience to manage difficulties.
- Adult knows that: “Living is dangerous and lacks courage”.
- And that any complaining attitude is just self-deception and delusion is lying to yourself.
- The adult, when he needs it, asks for help (different from complaining) to those who can really help him and he receives it with humility and gratitude.
- The false adult has a myth that being happy is a state of lack of difficulties and that well-being is more difficult than being ill (although it is the same thing: you choose to push forward or backward).
- The adult identifies himself as an apprentice of life and has already realized that those who ignore the processes and laws of life are arrested and imprisoned: the victims.
- Adults know their right and duty to invent their freedom responsibly. That's why he doesn't hang around, waiting for someone to come and save him. It is not waiting for princes, princesses...
- Adult knows about the use and takes care of abuses and disuse, both material and emotional, intellectual and spiritual.
- Adult does not expect pampering and flattery. He knows that pampering and flattery is even a “robbery” – of the soul, dignity, peace.
- Adult doesn't spoil either! Take care!
- Adult does not spoil the other. Take care of the other!
- Adulterates finance or are financed by the other so that there is no growth.
ADULT HAS REDEFINED THEIR MYTHS, TABOOS, DOGMAS
- well-being being more costly than malaise;
- that happiness is the absence of tensions;
- to find the other half; etc.
NOTE:
- When people exceed *25 years of life without an adult identity, it is because they have chosen to take advantage of being “adulterated”. And this identification is made by agents external to them, such as: being married, having a car, being a boss, being a doctor, etc.
- These people feel important and accomplished with all this! They pretend to be what they are not. They don't bank, they don't take responsibility for themselves. Often, they pretend to be “great people” through each other's lives. Example: people who make a career for the saint; generous ladies who help others; soft men with powerful wives (and vice versa); the victims, etc.
- The “adulterated ones” resist well up to 40 years of age. Then it's a God help us! They have the famous “come to their senses” and end up in the cesspool (depression) or in the CTI!
CLUES TO PERCEIVE IF WE ARE ADULTERED OR ADULTERED:
- Check the functional hierarchy: what is basic in your life; what are the things you “step on” with firmness?
- You need to see if your answer is coherent, that is, if what you say is really basic, if it supports it.
- Also see if it is an export base (taking care of the other, for example, is making the other your base); if it is an imported basis (being supported emotionally or financially by the other).
- If your base is: the spouse, the children; the work; the career; the money; the family, etc. So, if you lose this base (imported or exported) do you break down, get sick, go crazy, even die?
- Clarify what means: how you relate, cooperate, compete (the level of humanization – making exchanges).
- What is your top: what guides you, what are your life projects.
- Alone: being alone and silent. People who cannot be alone and silent are adulterated and disguised.
- Work vanity. If you seek approval from others; if it is to export to others.
- Check if you have already weaned from your parents and/or children.
*Child psychologist Laverne Antrobus argues that psychological support for young people should not end at age 18, as cognitive development continues until age 25.
Text organized by: Jaqueline Cássia de Oliveira
Source: Zélia Nascimento Course - BH/MG
